Managing conflict

어휘

• 冲突conflict
• 误解misunderstanding
• 道歉to apologize
• 难道could it be that / surely not
• 何必why bother / there is no need to
• 把…弄得…to make something become… (negative result)
• 冷静calm / composed
• 解决to resolve / to solve
• 委屈to feel wronged
• 让步to make a concession
• 坦诚frank / candid
• 指责to blame / to accuse
• 包容tolerance / to be understanding
• 主动to take the initiative

표현

• 难道…吗？To express disbelief or gentle reproach rhetorically
• 何必…呢To suggest an action is unnecessary and de-escalate
• 把…弄得…To describe how someone caused a negative outcome
• 冷静下来To ask someone or yourself to calm down
• 我理解你的感受To show empathy before expressing disagreement
• 我们可以好好谈谈吗To propose a calm conversation
• 让步To signal willingness to make a concession
• 坦诚说To introduce an honest, vulnerable statement

자주 하는 실수

• ✗难道他不是对的吗？是的，他是对的。
  ✓难道他不是对的吗？

  难道…吗 is a rhetorical structure. Answering it directly defeats its purpose. Use it to challenge, not to genuinely ask.

• ✗你把我弄得很生气了。
  ✓你把我弄得很生气。

  把…弄得… already expresses a completed state. Adding 了 at the end is redundant.

• ✗被他让我等了很久。
  ✓他让我等了很久。 / 我被他害得等了很久。

  Do not combine 被 and 让 as passive markers in the same clause. Choose one.

• ✗何必你这样做呢？
  ✓你何必这样做呢？

  In the 何必…呢 structure, 何必 should come before the verb or at the beginning of the relevant clause, not before the subject.

• ✗我们好好可以谈谈吗？
  ✓我们可以好好谈谈吗？

  好好 (properly / calmly) is an adverb that must directly precede the verb it modifies: 好好谈, not 好好...谈.

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